Enemy Within

He is the worst one
The enemy from within
That hones his evil craft
Under our very noses

He’s of the worst kind
Our friendly foe
Who steals off our innocence
Under cover of night

Our trusting kin
Slumber and smile
What ignorance!
How gullible!

While you scar our bodies
Our minds too
Rendering us numb
How can we forget?

You are the one
That you pretend
To shield us from –
What hypocrisy!

You taught us that
The world was evil
Who could have known
The world was you!

PS: I’ve heard some terrible stories in recent times that I cannot even retell on this page. There’s a lot going on now, when it comes to child sexual abuse. What we hear sometimes. …. is really scary. Why, even parents! Our children can’t run out of this world now, can they?👫

The Outsider Inside

My guest for today is Sandra Oyeku. Sandra resides in Australia, where she is a teacher. She is highly skilled in working with children, something she has been doing for almost a decade.

Sandra is fascinated by the saintliness of a child’s mind yet acknowledges that this innocence doesn’t remain for long, as life quickly starts to teach, to write….and the reality is very different.

I find this piece to be a mixture of the child’s fantasies and the rude reality, which many of us can identify with.


The Outsider Inside

“Tabula rasa!”
Many would utter
At birth – the way the mind is –
A clean slate with no shades

But these blue skies with no greys
Looking down on pastures –
Dying wilting pastures
Ration what I have to feed on

They gently sap the life in me
Because I – I am right in their midst.
I’m no coward, yet I cower
How long will this servitude be?

Still, I, full of the sun, give smiles
Bountiful, blessed and bright
Need to keep shining my light
That is my demeanour, banner and pledge

So whatever is, whatever comes
I remain grateful
For my purpose I’ll still be thankful
Until all will be again evergreen

As much as hope shall within me glean
I look outside of me
To find me everywhere
And yet still here

Birth Of The Dawn…..by Gift Dimgba Mamre

I’m pleased to share this next post with you, written by my dear friend Gift Dimgba Mamre. Gift is positive, with a vivaciousness that is very contagious. This piece highlights her personal struggles and an affirmation of her inmost desires. She speaks as if she has already received and that, my friend, is faith. Enjoy.

Birth Of The Dawn

In the birth of dawn,
With epitome of hope piled
I humbly sit and wait
My forthcoming child.

To this unborn one
From now and times to come
With happiness, and wisdom
I foresee a child with fun

To nourish his curious mind
And knowledge, help to find
I’ll always read with you,
Show you things I never knew

With you, I’ll never be sad
My moon-pie and precious lad
I have no fear, a mum to be,
My special kid, I can’t wait to see.

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Through his eyes

My little one is so active and his energy simply amazes me. Today, as I sit watching him play, I wonder what goes on in that young mind of his. Well here’s me imagining things thru his young eyes. But then, don’t take my word for it…

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Hello, my name is Deedee. I’m a B-O-Y!

I’ve often wondered why my parents gave me such a feminine name but it’s ok, I forgive them. But just in case I get tired someday, I’ll switch to D-O-N. Yeah, those are my very exact initials! And I’ll be controlling an empire, hopefully….

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I’m 3 years old. My mum thinks I’m cute but I think that should be kept for ‘little brother,’ who just loves to be patronized. I just want to live my life free of hassles, that’s all. Mum says I’m high in energy but tell me of any able-bodied boy my age who isn’t.

As simple and beautiful as life is, there are some things that I just don’t understand. Like the scowl on my mum’s face when she exclaims, “Deedee what are you doing?” and I honestly say “Mum, I know what I am doing.” Come on mum, I’m only exercising my creative license!


Or the scuttling that happens when mum and dad suddenly realize that I have wandered away from them to another corner of the house. And they bump into each other trying to find me and get me back under their “watchful” eyes. Hey folks, I’m trying to discover my “calling.”

Hey, (whispering) did I tell you I started school at 21months? Mum and dad couldn’t wait for the school year to end and just whisked me off to school one morning, in the middle of the 3rd term. Don’t get me wrong, I think school is fun. You see, on my very first day in school, I didn’t stay in class. I just played the whole day in the school courtyard, popping in to say hello every now and then to every class. It was one of my best times ever. I remember the headmaster asking a teacher with big bulging eyes that I thought would pop out of his head: ” is this not the new boy?” I didn’t wait to hear the reply.

Everyone in class is my best friend, seriously. There’s Jayde and Toby and Olivia and Ada, etcetera, etcetera (that’s to tell you that there are about 20 of ’em in my class). They always make me feel special. Which is why I never must get late to school. The one morning I got into class late was quite exhiliarating for me but from the look on my momma’s face, she was embarrassed. As I stepped into the class, all my classmates  got off their seats , yelling  ‘”yay, Deedee is here” and kinda startling the teacher. Hmm,  give me a better definition of ‘standing ovation’.

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Anyways, we’re now past the “songs and rhymes only” stages of school and recently, we’ve started some serious stuff like writing, counting and doing homework. Is it getting boring? I don’t know. Well, if you’re reading this, you probably are an adult so tell me: Is school boring? I really need to know what you think now, cos my mind is pretty much made up about what I want to become. By the way, it’s not a doctor, or lawyer, or accountant, marketer or any of the big names you hear today. Mum thinks that because I love to sing and fiddle with her guitar, I might do very well at music but nah, nothing could be further from the truth.

All I ever really wanted to do was make food. Uhuh! F-O-O-D. I’m wondering why mum hasn’t noticed that I love to lurk around the kitchen. Maybe because she’s too busy chasing me out of it. Again, I let it pass. But don’t read me wrong. When I said “make food,” I meant “grow good.” Yes, verily I say unto thee, I want to be a farmer.

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I haven’t quite worked out the mechanics yet but I really do want to be a farmer. That’s the only way I’m sure to remain my happy me. Besides, why do many of you adults work so hard? Isn’t it to put food on your table? So I’ll be just fine if I can grow the food and you can buy from me. How’s that?

In any case, I’ll just have to put that in the coolers for now. The powers that be (and that’s mum and dad), say I still must get through school. How many years is that? Oh please let’s not even go there! While waiting at it, I’ll just listen to my favorite song.

Thank you for your time. I’ll be signing out for now. Um, did I tell you I’d love to hear your thoughts on my mini-biography? I’m waiting…

The Power of Positive Auto-suggestion



I am not an expert in parenting but I am a firm believer in the written word of God and its practicality for our day. The Scriptures are replete with references emphasizing the need to speak positively and fill our minds with ‘can do’ thoughts. In my opinion, there are few aspects of modern living where this is more apt than the area of parenting.

I was reading the book Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude, authored by Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone. They said in their book that there were several hundred thousands of teenagers who “enter penal institutions for car thefts and other crimes. These personal tragedies could in many instances be avoided if the parents learned how to employ suggestion properly and if their sons and daughters were taught how to effectively use ….  self-suggestion.”

The theme that they were trying to develop is the principle of Auto-suggestion or Self-suggestion, which they defined as “the agency of control through which an individual may voluntarily feed his subconscious mind on thoughts of a creative nature, or by neglect, permit thoughts of a destructive nature to find their way into the rich garden of his mind.”


Simply put, when you repeat a statement to yourself or to another often enough, you or that other person come to believe it and all the mental and thought processes are geared toward proving that statement true. Hence when you tell your child that you trust he is a good child and repeat it often enough, he starts to believe it and soon enough when this belief becomes strongly entrenched in his heart, his thoughts and actions would be directed toward the good.


Conversely, repeat to your child that he is bad, recalcitrant, incorrigible and that nothing good can come out of him and soon enough, he begins to act out your script.


What is my point? The world is already full of negative influences. Our children were born into them, are faced with these negative stimuli everyday – at school with their peers, at home with the visual media and internet, on the road with suggestive and sometimes lewd publicity. The least that we owe them is to temper all of these undesirable influences by our positive, encouraging expressions towards them. In time, they catch the drift.

Positive autosuggestion has nothing to do with lying to your child or patting him on the back when he has obviously committed a wrong. It is all about saying, suggesting, promoting, whether subtly or overtly, ideas that will steer his thought processes and motivate him to desirable action.

The book continues that through the use of suggestion, young people can be motivated to develop inviolable moral standards through their own conscious auto-suggestion and they will know how to neutralize or repel the undesirable suggestions of their associates in an intelligent manner.” I guess this explains why some youngsters successfully withstand peer pressure while others do not.

To return to my first point of reference however, I’m amazed sometimes at how fitting the bible’s counsel can be in our everyday lives, in things that we take for granted. Consider for example, the book of Colossians 3:21, where it urges fathers to avoid exasperating their children, “that they do not become downhearted.” Indeed, when talking to our children or any younger one for that matter, thoughtfulness will help us to avoid “exasperating” them or “provoking them to wrath,” as Ephesians 6:4 complements it.

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Even if children must be disciplined, parents and elders should speak to them respectfully. In this way, older ones make it easier for the youth to correct their course. That is so much better than conveying the impression that we have given up on them, whereupon they may give up on themselves. Younger ones might not remember all the counsel that they received, but they will remember how others spoke to them.

Another good counsel is found at Colossians 3:8, which says to put away “wrath, anger, badness, abusive speech, and obscene talk out of YOUR mouth.” What I glean from this is that you should never talk to your children in an angry state. I have heard many a mother in my neighborhood use very heavy curse words on their children. In the Yoruba language, for example, you’ll hear a mother address her daughter at the top of her voice, “ko ni daa fun baba e!” (you really don’t want to know what that means)  or a father calling down evil upon his son, over a relatively minor cause of frustration. By the way, we all know how much our parents utterances come to pass on us their children. If many years down the line, these children start having problems and encountering difficulties in their adult life, their parents often don’t remember that it might have been something rashly said or carelessly uttered earlier on in their children’s life. So what does this teach? The very same lesson pronounced in Colossians 4:5, which urges us to “let our utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt,” as it were. Food without the proper quantity of salt to season it would be disagreeable to the palate. In the same vein, speech that is uncouth would have the same effect to the ears – distasteful, repugnant, unpleasant, even disgusting. We certainly want to avoid that.

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Beyond being just a good parent to my children, I want to be a good friend. A good friend:

Knows you

Trusts you

Loves you

Respects you

Honors you

Supports you

Wants you

And appreciates you

I want to do all of that and more, even though the pressures of daily living would have me do otherwise. In the final analysis, whatever our convictions are, every parent, stepparent or guardian has a choice: to be that positive force in your child’s life or to be his drawback. Which do you choose? I’d like to know what you think.